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‘All My Exes Are Crazy’ Is a Relationship Red Flag You Should Take Seriously
Constantly trash-talking people they once loved reveals a lot about their character.
By Jenna Ryu
Big little lies
9 People on the Signs of Cheating They Wish They’d Paid Attention to Sooner
“Although she posted selfies with her friends almost daily, she would never point the camera at me.”
By Jenna Ryu
Dating in Your 30s Is Hard Enough—Here’s What It’s Like If You Also Have Breast Cancer
One guy told me, “I just get uncomfortable with needles and doctors and stuff like that.”
By Caroline Reilly
What to Do If ADHD Is Messing With Your Love Life
Being late to dates, forgetting to text, and blanking on names can hurt a budding romance.
By Julia Sullivan
Words of diss-couragement
The One Thing You Should Never Say to a Friend Going Through a Breakup
It’s a well-meaning comment, but it can make your heartbroken buddy feel worse.
By Jenna Ryu
Is It Ever Okay to Hit on Someone at the Gym?
Because “Nice squat form” can sound pretty close to “Yep, I’ve been staring at your ass.”
By Jenna Ryu
What Does It Really Mean to Be ‘Emotionally Unavailable’?
Dating someone who won’t let you in is frustrating…but it’s not always a lost cause.
By Jenna Ryu
Age-Gap Relationships Get a Bad Rap—But These 5 Tricks Make Them Work
“Babygirl” and “The White Lotus” are flipping the script…and real-life couples are too.
By Jenna Ryu
Can We Please Stop Giving Flirting Hacks Like ‘Sticky Eyes’ Too Much Credit?
There’s no magic formula to dating—no matter how many TikToks promise otherwise.
By Jenna Ryu
Yes, Taking a Break Can Make a Relationship Stronger—But Only Sometimes
Exploring what it's like to not be together (without fully splitting up) can have surprising benefits.
By Jenna Ryu
5 Important Questions to Ask Yourself Before Getting Back With Your Ex
Let’s make sure your Relationship 2.0 is an upgrade, not a rerun.
By Jenna Ryu
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How Much Should Politics Really Matter in Relationships?
Ben and Sara seem to be hitting it off on this season of ‘Love Is Blind’—that is, until one reveals they didn’t vote in the last election.
By Jenna Ryu
‘Love Is Blind’ Has Us Wondering, Is It Shallow to Care About Height in a Relationship?
We asked experts when a “preference” turns into a problem.
By Jenna Ryu
How to Sext With Confidence and Have a Hotter Relationship Because of It
Expert tips for coming up with ideas and keeping the convo rolling.
By Erica Sloan
6 People Who Found Love Without Dating Apps Share How They Did It
A little inspiration for anyone who is so sick of swiping.
By Julia Ries
50 Non-Awkward Questions for a First Date That’ll Actually Spark a Connection
So you can skip surface-level small talk about the weather or your job—and cut to the good stuff instead.
By Jenna Ryu
Sure, Opposites Attract. But Do They Actually Stay Together?
There’s a difference between what’s exciting in the moment…and what has potential to go the distance.
By Jenna Ryu
What Is ‘Retroactive Jealousy’—And How Do I Stop It From Ruining My Relationship?
It’s okay to be a little preoccupied with your partner’s ex. But how you manage those insecurities makes all the difference.
By Jenna Ryu
The Best Dating Apps for Serious Relationships, Casual Fun, and Anything in Between
The secret to finding someone great—and avoiding a horror story—is picking one that aligns with your unique goals.
By Jenna Ryu and Samantha Vincenty
5 Sneaky Ways You Might Be Sabotaging Your Relationships
Pushing great people away is a subconscious attempt to stay emotionally safe.
By Jenna Ryu
Is Hannah’s Red Flags List on ‘Love Is Blind’…a Red Flag?
Her fiancé wasn’t thrilled that she outlined his flaws. Here’s what a relationship expert thinks.
By Jenna Ryu
This Card Game Is Probably the Reason My Partner and I Started Dating
Get ready to dig deep over dinner.
By Gabrielle Kassel
Hopeless romantic
8 Online Dating Horror Stories From People Who Eventually Found Their Person
“On date three, while playing mini golf at night, he said he didn’t think anyone had gone to the moon.”
By Kayla Blanton
Heart truths
How to Get Over a Breakup, Even When It Feels Impossible
Yes, time helps—but these tips can make the process a little less painful.
By Jenna Ryu and Nicole Pajer
7 People on Why They Chose to Be Celibate for a Spell
“This break ended up being a wake-up call: Most of the people I was seeing didn’t really care about my pleasure.”
By Jenna Ryu