Relationships
The One Question You Should Never Ask Your Partner During a Fight
It turns the conversation into a debate instead of an opportunity to understand each other.
By Anna Borges
31 Cute Gifts for Your Long-Distance Partner
We found a mix of practical and romantic presents that say “I can’t wait to see you.”
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By Tasneem Anjarwalla and Sara Coughlin
Love
How Bad Is It, Really, to Go Through Your Partner’s Phone When They’re Not Looking?
Sneaking a peek at their texts can be tempting, but we asked a therapist if it’s worth it.
By Jenna Ryu
Giving Your Partner the Silent Treatment Isn’t Just Petty—It’s Actually Really Toxic
Of course you feel dehumanized and insecure when someone pretends you don’t even exist.
By Jenna Ryu
Love
7 People Share How They Discovered Their Partner Was Emotionally Cheating
“She was quick to start fights…and spoke fondly of a coworker.”
By Kayla Blanton
Which of These 7 Conflict Styles Defines How You Fight in Relationships?
Are you more of a competitor, aggressor, or avoidant? Find out here.
By Jenna Ryu
7 Relationship Green Flags We Can Learn From Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco
Not sold on this headline-making couple? This list might just win you over.
By Jenna Ryu
What Does It Really Mean to Be ‘Emotionally Unavailable’?
Dating someone who won’t let you in is frustrating…but it’s not always a lost cause.
By Jenna Ryu
4 Signs of Love Bombing in Friendships You Should Never Ignore
Moving too fast isn’t just a romantic red flag.
By Jenna Ryu
Age-Gap Relationships Get a Bad Rap—But These 5 Tricks Make Them Work
“Babygirl” and “The White Lotus” are flipping the script…and real-life couples are too.
By Jenna Ryu
Can We Please Stop Giving Flirting Hacks Like ‘Sticky Eyes’ Too Much Credit?
There’s no magic formula to dating—no matter how many TikToks promise otherwise.
By Jenna Ryu
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Yes, Taking a Break Can Make a Relationship Stronger—But Only Sometimes
Exploring what it's like to not be together (without fully splitting up) can have surprising benefits.
By Jenna Ryu
5 Important Questions to Ask Yourself Before Getting Back With Your Ex
Let’s make sure your Relationship 2.0 is an upgrade, not a rerun.
By Jenna Ryu
How Much Should Politics Really Matter in Relationships?
Ben and Sara seem to be hitting it off on this season of ‘Love Is Blind’—that is, until one reveals they didn’t vote in the last election.
By Jenna Ryu
Why, After 6 Years of Celebrating, My Partner and I Are Boycotting Valentine’s Day
The most romantic way to celebrate? Doing absolutely nothing—let me convince you why.
By Jenna Ryu
6 People Who Found Love Without Dating Apps Share How They Did It
A little inspiration for anyone who is so sick of swiping.
By Julia Ries
5 Signs You’ve Outgrown Your Therapist
Yep, it’s normal to graduate from your sessions together—here’s how to tell when you’re ready.
By Jenna Ryu
Sure, Opposites Attract. But Do They Actually Stay Together?
There’s a difference between what’s exciting in the moment…and what has potential to go the distance.
By Jenna Ryu
My Partner and I Never Fight. Is That a Red Flag?
Here’s how to know when your seemingly “peaceful” dynamic is more of a problem than a perk.
By Jenna Ryu
10 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Deciding to Stay Just Friends With Your Ex
It’s not easy to go from romantic to platonic—but these prompts can help you figure out if it’s even possible.
By Jenna Ryu
What Is ‘Retroactive Jealousy’—And How Do I Stop It From Ruining My Relationship?
It’s okay to be a little preoccupied with your partner’s ex. But how you manage those insecurities makes all the difference.
By Jenna Ryu
5 Subtle Signs You Might Actually Be in a Codependent Relationship
And how to regain your independence without having to drift apart.
By Jenna Ryu
You Really Can’t ‘Fix’ Other People—Here’s How to Make Peace With That
Past trauma and hurt are valid, but those aren’t excuses for treating you like crap.
By Jenna Ryu
Is Giving a Marriage Ultimatum in a Relationship Ever a Good Idea?
We asked a couples counselor for their honest thoughts.
By Jenna Ryu