Love
Sure, Opposites Attract. But Do They Actually Stay Together?
There’s a difference between what’s exciting in the moment…and what has potential to go the distance.
By Jenna Ryu
3 Sex Toys to Snag ASAP for a Spicy Valentine’s Day, According to Sex Therapists
Save the sweets and flowers for later.
By Jessica Kasparian
My Partner and I Never Fight. Is That a Red Flag?
Here’s how to know when your seemingly “peaceful” dynamic is more of a problem than a perk.
By Jenna Ryu
10 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Deciding to Stay Just Friends With Your Ex
It’s not easy to go from romantic to platonic—but these prompts can help you figure out if it’s even possible.
By Jenna Ryu
What Is ‘Retroactive Jealousy’—And How Do I Stop It From Ruining My Relationship?
It’s okay to be a little preoccupied with your partner’s ex. But how you manage those insecurities makes all the difference.
By Jenna Ryu
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The Best Clitoral Vibrators, Whether You’re With a Partner or Flying Solo
The more, the merrier.
By Kristin Canning and Gabrielle Kassel
The Best Lubes for Smooth Sailing Alone or With a Partner
Loved by both experts and shoppers.
14 slides
By Sarah Felbin and Kristin Canning
Vibrators 101: Everything You Need to Know (and the Expert-Approved Ones to Try)
We found beginner-friendly wands, bullets, and more.
42 slides
By Kate Sloan, Sara Coughlin, and Gabrielle Kassel
5 Subtle Signs You Might Actually Be in a Codependent Relationship
And how to regain your independence without having to drift apart.
By Jenna Ryu
The Best Rabbit Vibrator Is Actually a Snail
After weeks of testing, I can confirm: The hype is real.
By Gabrielle Kassel
You’re Gonna Want to Say Yes, Yes, YES to These Clitoral Vibrators
These suction, finger, and wand vibes are ready to show you a good time.
27 slides
By Malia Griggs and Kristin Canning
You Really Can’t ‘Fix’ Other People—Here’s How to Make Peace With That
Past trauma and hurt are valid, but those aren’t excuses for treating you like crap.
By Jenna Ryu
Is Giving a Marriage Ultimatum in a Relationship Ever a Good Idea?
We asked a couples counselor for their honest thoughts.
By Jenna Ryu
7 Communication Skills Every Couple Should Master, According to Therapists
These techniques can turn a potential blowup into a moment that brings you closer.
By Jenna Ryu
How to Use Temperature Play to Ignite Your Sex Life
Adding hot and cold sensations to the mix can go a long way.
By Erica Sloan
Here’s How to Shop for the Right Strap-On
Sex therapists and other experts share their top picks for beginners and experienced users.
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By Malia Griggs, Sara Coughlin, and Gabrielle Kassel
The Best Dating Apps for Serious Relationships, Casual Fun, and Anything in Between
The secret to finding someone great—and avoiding a horror story—is picking one that aligns with your unique goals.
By Jenna Ryu and Samantha Vincenty
31 Cute Gifts for Your Long-Distance Partner
We found a mix of practical and romantic presents that say “I can’t wait to see you.”
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By Tasneem Anjarwalla and Sara Coughlin
What Exactly Counts as ‘Micro-Cheating’?
One person’s painful betrayal may be another’s NBD.
By Anna Borges